Sunday, December 23: I watch “What Not To Wear”. It’s my secret guilty pleasure. The 360º-room is my favorite segment. Fashion offenders stand in the harshly lit mirrored stall, dressed in outfits from their personal wardrobe. I sit on the couch, fragrant in my re-used running clothes, and nod in agreement with the style experts’ […]

Yes Or No?

Saturday, December 15: Being nice is a choice. This morning I waited to dart-and-dodge across the six lanes of Route 139 and get my run started. I savored the moment’s perfectness: it was well before 9:00 a.m., clear, sunny, dry pavement, no wind. My legs felt fresh, and I was comfortable in my high-tech, wick-away-the-stench […]

Be Nice? Dare Me.

Wednesday, December 12: I’m not an overly greedy woman. My Christmas wishes are simple. For example, I wish not to be flattened by a bus or garbage truck or newspaper delivery van or distracted driver before eight o’clock in the morning. However, there are those in this world whose daily mission is my destruction. I […]

If You Can’t Say Something Nice…

Monday, December 10: My being-nice-before-Christmas project is teaching me a lot of things. Today’s lesson: I wake up with two women every morning. They don’t get along, and compete for my attention every day. It’s tiring to be wanted so much all the time. Scrooge-Nancy is unfiltered in her comments and outrageous in her actions. […]

No Is Nice.

Friday, December 7: Sometimes “no thank you” is the nicest thing to say. Example #1: I bought my post-run extra large coffee at Manny’s Deli this morning. My favorite crossing guard stood boldly in the midst of rush-hour traffic on Summit Avenue. The woman doesn’t need a whistle to stop cars, buses, or trucks: she […]

Bah Humbug Preserve.

Wednesday, December 5: Doctor Berger says our partners are often the recipients of our harshest behavior. I agree with her, and not just because she charges $175 per 45-minute hour session. I know what it’s like to be on the receiving end of my husband B‘s foul mood, whether I’m the cause or not. However, […]

Bah Humbug Nibbles.

Tuesday, December 4:  Today I encountered two challenges to my becoming-a-nicer-Nancy mission. The first is solitude. I work largely from home, and some days my only interactions (other than with my husband B) are virtual. It’s hard to be nice to other people when you don’t see anyone for eight-hour stretches. This morning I wondered […]